Absence of Fear

by elana carter on November 9, 2010

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So, a couple of weeks ago I was on a carnival cruise with several of the fabulous women in my family. While on said cruise, I talked my baby sister into a zip-line excursion in the wilds of Jamaica. Yeah, this is going to be good… keep reading.

The photo you see on the right is, to use a current buzzword, authentic. Note the expression on my sister’s face. This is the look of woman who is terrified but doesn’t want to appear terrified because she knows this adventure will be documented on facebook.

While standing on one of the zip-line platform slapping away mosquitoes, I had a couple of thoughts (not at the same time, I’m a linear thinker). First, I haven’t seen my sister this scared since I delivered her to her first day of kindergarten “some number” of years ago. I’m not allowed to reveal her age. Then, I look down and notice that if I move forward 18 inches, I will fall off the platform and deep into the jungle. We’re so far up, I can’t see the bottom, although it does look like a number of trees would break my fall. The thing is, I’m not afraid. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that I’m safe, I’m gong to have a great time and this is going to be a highlight of the trip.

It dawned on me that I always feel this way on vacation. It’s like there’s a giant force field around me protecting me from any and everything. My spirit is light. There’s no tension, no anxiety, no hesitation, no thoughts of doing anything wrong. In fact, I feel like everything I do is right, it’s not possible to do anything wrong, everything is going to turn out great and I’m gonna’ have a blast moving through the process.

Here’s the thing. My vacations are very different from my “real” life, where I’m often gripped by fear. During the past six months, since launching my business, I can’t count the number of times I’ve been paralyzed by fear. Traipsing through the Jamaican amazon, I can’t help but wonder what my business would look like in the absence of fear. The…absence…of…fear.  


It’s hard for me to imagine but the idea is soul stirring.


You’re probably wondering what happened to my sister after that fateful first day of kindergarten. I’m proud to say that she went on to graduate at the top of her kindergarten class. As for another zip-line escapade….NotSoMuchIThink.

As for me, I’m hopeful that my vacations are a glimpse of my future “real” life – no fear.

If you’re looking for yet another blog to read, check out fearlessstories. It’s a deep dive into the ways we’re impacted by fear and offers inspiration for moving past it. They publish an outstanding monthly magazine, fear.less.

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Denise Haney November 9, 2010 at 7:54 AM

Great post Elana, thank you! As entrepreneurs, we all face those days of “fear”, you are not alone. On those days, I try to remind myself that I started my business because I am passionate about helping people take their business to the next level. If I remain paralyzed with fear I am not honoring myself or those people that I know I can help. If I look at it that way, that makes me selfish…and that is not who I am. I was born to touch people’s lives, support their dreams and encourage their growth, what’s so scary about that?


Elana Carter November 9, 2010 at 10:16 AM

Denise, Thanks for stopping by. Honoring yourself is a good framework for movig past fear.


Belvia Moody November 9, 2010 at 11:13 AM

Elana, what an awesome video and blog on “Absence of Fear”. It was a great reminder to me of how fear can paralyze and hinder us from accomplishing our dreams. I look forward to continuing this conversation over “coffee talk” sometime in the near future. You have presented some awesome concepts! Create a great day…… For the best is yet to come.


Elana Carter November 9, 2010 at 11:40 AM


Thanks for stopping by. A friend of mine said that running a business is a tremendous personal growth experience. I’m experiencing that first hand!


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